Discipline
- At April 02, 2016
- By admin
- In attachment, development, discipline, maturity
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It seems we spend so much time asking questions about how to discipline kids while less time is spent on considering what is needed for strong development. There is an answer to immature behaviour and it is healthy growth. Discipline doesn’t grow a child up, it is what we do to compensate and direct them until maturity arrives. Our children’s growth as socially and emotionally responsible individuals rests on having deep relationships with caring adults and enough time and space to play.
Rest, Play, Grow
- At February 20, 2016
- By admin
- In development, maturity, play, preschoolers, teens
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It may seem odd that in order for a child to become an independent, separate being they need to first depend on an adult for caretaking. It is the generous invitation for relationship from a caring adult that frees kids from their hunger for connection. When a child can take for granted their relational needs will be met, they will be free to play, explore, and express themselves on the world around them. We need to work at creating the relational playgrounds for our children to flourish in, it is here they grow into the people that only our love can make them.
Immaturity in Kids
- At February 20, 2016
- By admin
- In development, maturity, preschoolers
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There is a difference between a child who has been told how to act mature and one that is naturally maturing as a separate, social and adaptive being. We often don’t distinguish between the two and can become consumed with monitoring a child’s behaviour as if this were the answer to growing a child up. Children will grow when adults seize the lead in cultivating strong relationships with them and when preserve their heart and foster the conditions for play. Managing the immaturity of children is the job of adults – it’s what we do while waiting for nature to grow our kids up.